10 Powerful Ways to Deal with Anger

Here are some practical suggestions for dealing with anger.

1. When you are angry say nothing.

If we speak in anger we will definitely aggravate the situation and quite likely hurt the feelings of others. If we speak in anger we will find that people respond in kind, creating a spiral of negative anger. If we can remain outwardly silent it gives time for the emotion of anger to leave us.

“When angry count to ten before you speak. If very angry, count to one hundred. “

2. Be indifferent to those who seek to make us angry.

Some people may unfortunately take a malicious pleasure in trying to make you mad. However if we can feel indifferent to them and their words; if we feel it is beyond our dignity to even acknowledge them, then there words and actions will have no effect. Also if we do not respond in any way to their provocation they will lose interest and not bother us in the future.

3. Use reason to stop anger.

When we feel anger coming to the fore try to take a step back and say to yourself “This anger will not help me in any way. This anger will make the situation worse.” Even if part of us remains angry our inner voice is helping us to distance our self from the emotion of anger.

4. Look kindly upon Others.

Another visualisation suggested by spiritual teacher Paramhansa Yogananda is to see the anger-rousing agent as a 5 year old child. If you think of the other person as a helpless 5 year old child your compassion and forgiveness will come to the fore. If your baby brother accidentally stabbed you, you would not feel anger and desire to retaliate. Instead you would just feel he is just too young to know any better. This exercise may be particularly useful for close members of the family who at times evoke your anger.

5. Value Peace more than anger.

If we value peace of mind as our most important treasure we will not allow anger to remain in our system.

“You may have every right to be angry with someone, but you know that by getting angry with him you will only lose your precious peace of mind..”

6. Always try to understand those who are cross.

Don’t worry about feeling the need to defend yourself from their criticisms. If you can remain detached and calm they may begin to feel guilty about venting their anger on you. Inspired by your example of calmness they will seek subconsciously to do the same.

7. Focus on Something Completely Different.

Suppose someone has done something to make you angry. Think about something which will make you happy. The best antidote to negativity is to focus on the positive.

8. Breathe Deeply.

The simple act of breathing deeply will help considerably with removing anger.

9. Meditation.

Practise meditation regularly to bring your inner peace to the fore. If we can have an inner access to our inner peace we will be able to draw upon this during testing times.

10. Smile

When we smile we defuse many negative situations. To smile is offer goodwill to others. Smiling costs nothing but can effectively defuse tense situations.

Queen Control

Orang kate aku queen control...

Betul ker?

aku rase aku biasa-biasa jer..

tapi orang tetap kate benda yang same..

agaknye betul la tu..

Amik dari Uswah nye blog yg telah diedit2

1. What is the most important thing in your life?
Myself..

2. What is the last thing that you bought with your own money?
pencuci muka

3. Where do you wish to get married?
kat JB

4. How old do you think you will be permanently owned by your love?
26 kot...till the end la..

5. Are you in love?
Yeap..(cam uswah excited sgt..aku rilex sket) hhehehe

6. Where was the last restaurant you had dinner?
lupe la nama restoren..

7. Name the latest book that you bought?
novel, lupe tajuk bab x abes baca lagi..

8. What is your full name?
anisah binti othaman

9. Do you prefer your mother or father?
mother

10. Name a person that you really wish to meet in real life for the first time.
angelina jolie kot..

11. Christina or Britney?
hmmm... ;(

12. Do you do your own laundry?
yelah, sape lagi nk diharapkan..

13. The most exciting place you want to go?
skang ni kalau ade org kate nak pegi bekelah kat maran pahang tu msti aku akan kate.."nak ikut!"

14. Hugs or kisses?
Hugs!

15. 8 things I am passionate about.
- makan!
- panjat memanjat
- tidosss
- lepak2
- masuk ke hutan
- keluar hutan lagi passionate
- mandi2 air terjun
- air terjun kot

16. 8 things I say too often.
- a'a ek
- eh yeke
- ooooo...
- ape? ape? xdengar...
- dah la tu...
- ui..laponye daku...
- hmmm..
- sukati aku la...(dgn kereknye)

17. 6 songs I could listen to over and over again.
- lucky jason mraz
- so what pink
- lagu chipmunks
- i'm yours
- tercipta untukku ungu
- cinta dalam hati ungu

Don't Speak Liar

banyak penipuan aku dengar lately nih....

menipu sebab nak lepaskan diri,

menipu sebab nak lari dari kenyataan,

menipu sebab cepat, menipu sebab nak lari dari seseorang,

menipu sebab takut kena marah,

menipu sebab taknak orang tau..

macam2 la..temasukla aku....

Frustration..Week 44

Week 44 of the year...

Such a frustrated week...wiken mase cuti deepavali hari tu dah la xde wat benda2 yang berfaedah..setakat pegi zoo melawat teman2 yg bosan..samela cam aku kebosanan..
masuk keje hari selasa plak tu, time org tengah bergembira bercui berpoya2 lagi..hari selasa jer dah macam2 benda buat aku panas hati..makan dalam oo..aku memang tak akan cakap banyak, tapi bila aku marah, semua orang tau aku marah..muka aku ni..nampak sangat kalau aku marah..hari rabu lagi la..hari aku angin sedunia..dahla pagi2 dah kene sembur ngan rakan sekerja yg bukan rakan seopis..(rakan sekerja ke nk panggil mangkuk tu??), aku x banyak songeh la pagi tuh, aku diam je..mengaku kesilapan yg dia dok ungkit berkali2 tuh..padahal tu bile punye citer tuh..nk sejukkan hati, aku senyum jer..pastu ade la plak, tghari tu dia kena tiau plak dengan opismate aku pasal keje dia..dia tiau aku balik benda yg xde kena mengena..dia dah bengang, bengang kan aku plak..aku ape lagi, panas hati la. tapi since dia x satu opis ngn aku tapi aku kene keje ngan dia, habis la..mmg x jadik keje la bila dah bergaduh camni..xleh wat keje aku kejap hari rabu hari tu..balik tu aku tenangkan fikiran main2 ngn anak buah..hari khamis aku masuk keje ngn semangat baru walaupun aku bangun agak lambat hari ni..saje je nk test datang lambat tapi sampai opis lagi awal gak dari sume2 orang padahal umah aku la yg paling jauh..watever la..ni la lumrah kehidupan, adakalanya kita kat bawah, esok kita kat atas..kita tak tahu..tapi walau ape pon, hidup mesti diteruskan..
alhamdulillah aku masih bernafas lagi..
*jangan cari pasal ngn aku okey..*

Laskar Pelangi

Mimpi adalah kunci
Untuk kita, menaklukan dunia
Berlarilah, tanpa lelah
sampai engkau meraihnya.

Laskar Pelangi..
takkan terikat waktu
bebaskan mimpimu di angkasa
Raih bintang di jiwa

Menarilah dan terus tertawa
walau dunia tak seindah surga
Bersyukurlah pada yang Kuasa
Cinta kita di dunia
selamanya...

Cinta kepada hidup
memberikan senyuman abadi
walau hidup kadang tak adil
tapi cinta lengkapi kita.

Menarilah dan terus tertawa
walau dunia tak seindah surga
Bersyukurlah pada yang Kuasa
Cinta kita di dunia
selamanya..

Laskar Pelangi.
takkan terikat waktu
Jangan berhenti mewarnai
Jutaan mimpi di bumi

Menarilah dan terus tertawa
walau dunia tak seindah surga
Bersyukurlah pada yang Kuasa
Cinta kita di dunia
selamanya..

Laskar Pelangi..
Takkan terikat, waktu..

Lucky

Do you hear me, Talking to you

Across the water across the deep blue ocean

Under the open sky, oh my, baby I'm trying

Boy I hear you in my dreams

I feel your whisper across the sea

I keep you with me in my heart

You make it easier when life gets hard

Lucky I'm in love with my best friend

Lucky to have been where I have been

Lucky to be coming home again

Ooohh ooooh oooh oooh ooh ooh ooh ooh

They don't know how long it takes

Waiting for a love like this

Every time we say goodbye

I wish we had one more kiss

I'll wait for you I promise you, I will

Lucky I'm in love with my best friend

Lucky to have been where I have been

Lucky to be coming home again

Lucky we're in love every way

Lucky to have stayed where we have stayed

Lucky to be coming home someday
And so I'm sailing through the sea

To an island where we'll meet

You'll hear the music fill the air

I'll put a flower in your hair
though the breezes through trees

Move so pretty you're all I see

As the world keeps spinning round

You hold me right here right now
Lucky I'm in love with my best friend

Lucky to have been where I have been

Lucky to be coming home again

Lucky we're in love every way

Lucky to have stayed where we have stayed

Lucky to be coming home someday
Ooohh ooooh oooh oooh ooh ooh ooh ooh Ooooh ooooh oooh oooh ooh ooh ooh oo